Male Sex Workers suffer abuse and hatred just like their female counterparts.

Beau, a gigolo and French pornstar almost died from injuries he suffered at the hands of a client. A married woman in her 50s, had used his services for a little more than 2 years. He describes their relationship as very amicable and nothing sexually perverse. Her reasons for using his services seemed to be something other than purely sexual, she wanted the attention and to be made to feel that she was desired. The 20 year difference in age between Beau and herself only seemed to make their meetings more special.

But all that changed when unknown to Beau, her husband had left her for a much younger woman. Their ensuing encounter, started with conversation over a glass of wine, a casual exchange that demonstrated a familiarity and comfort level. However, she had spiked Beau’s drink with Roofies (Rohypnol). She then proceeded to unleash her jilted fury on the man before her, cutting and burning his penis and inserting spoons and forks in his anus. When she was satisfied with what she had done, she had somehow got Beau into her car and drove him the bois de Vincennes where she left him at the park’s entrance.

He was found by a firefighter walking his dog who realized something was wrong and called for an ambulance. Beau was taken to the hospital and it was discovered that 2 dinner forks were still inside of him. Hospital staff were professional, seeking only to render assistance, whereas everyone associated with helping rape victims were accusatory. His sexual orientation was recorded as gay despite his insistence that he wasn’t. He was also questioned about his drug use, he was sober accept for the Roofies. Finally, when it became known that was a pornstar, everyone lost interest in him, with few openly saying he probably got hurt in a porn shoot gone wrong.

Sex work is still work.

Sex work has long been a contentious issue, with debates centered on its legality, morality, and the impact it has on individuals and society. In recent years, sex worker advocacy groups have emerged to fight for the rights and protection of sex workers, often focusing on the experiences of female sex workers. However, male sex workers are marginalized and ignored within these organizations, leaving them vulnerable to abuse, discrimination, and violence. The argument many associated with these groups make is that male sex workers exist in very small numbers and that their focus is on trying to help the largest number of people possible. Perhaps Beau had said it best, “This is classic feminist hypocrisy. Only women can be victimized.”

No one has ever done any adequate research and there’s almost no interest to investigate what percentage of men are prostitutes compared to that of women. Literally in a textbook in academic circles, male prostitution is estimated at 10 to 54 % of the sex worker population. (Allman 1999). A variation that is too large to be taken seriously accept to show that nobody really knows the reality of the situation. Andrew Fogg (2017) writing for Medium noted that 42% of the prostitution ads on Adultwork were males, yet organizations and governments consider 20% a generous estimate when factoring resources.

A large portion of male prostitutes begin as strippers or porn talent, so they are able to use more direct tactics, such as word of mouth, to ply their trade. Male sex workers agree that they exist in much larger number than what’s generally believed and in last decade, male prostitution has been growing. The secrecy is the result of a 3 fold problem.

• (1.) The women and couples who use their services demand much greater discretion.
• (2.) The majority of men chose to be silent about being raped because of public mockery.
• (3.) When they do attempt to speak up about being sexually assaulted, they face possible double victimization. Men are frequently accused by the police and support groups of being the rapist, trying to conceal their crime by pretending to be the victim.

Male prostitutes either know or quickly learn that, given the popular prejudices against them, it’s safer to accept what has been done to them and not speak about it to anyone. It’s a brutal reality, taunted by the anti-rape slogan “Believe every woman”; because no one is saying, “Believe every victim.”

Sex worker advocacy groups and victim resources tend to focus solely on “the weaker sex” with the argument that they have historically faced greater violence. (Budd et al., 2019). Considering the current conditions which say “no man should be believed” and that men can only be assailants and never victims, then perhaps it’s time to question historical accuracy. Today everyone knows that history is written by the winners which logically means that male victims of sexual assault are among history’s ultimate losers.

In 2024 there is a growing acknowledgment of diverse gender identities. Group identity politics dominate the government, the media and academia. The overwhelming problem with this is that the traditional male identity is considered the evil patriarchy and blamed for all problems. It’s therefore unfortunate that old biases against men, rampant within the sex work industry, perpetuate the invisibility of male sex workers (Budd et al., 2019). Additionally, the sex worker rights movement are linked to the broader fight for women’s and LGBTQ+ rights, further contributing to the marginalization of male sex workers (Sanders, 2018).

The calls for inclusive advocacy continue to be very elusive when the discussion turns to men. Male sex workers face increased risks of violence, abuse, and exploitation due to their invisibility within advocacy groups (Budd et al., 2019). They may also struggle to access essential health services, such as HIV prevention and treatment, as these services are often tailored to the needs of those who present female (World Health Organization, 2019).

Assaulting a male sex worker should not be more acceptable.

After organizing a sex event, the client paid for the male sex worker’s ride home. The driver recognized the man from his work as a porn-star and asked for oral sex. When he politely declined his offer with a comment that he was tired and not mentally prepared for a male-to-male physical encounter. The driver became hostile and sprayed his passenger with what appeared to be bear spray. He was kicked out of the vehicle and left stranded, at apx 3:30am, several miles from populace. To this day, the ride sharing service has never followed up correspondences. Lawyers have been either quick money shysters or very reluctant to take the case without steep financial reimbursement. Law enforcement is obviously also, not an option – The author (me) of this article is the victim in this case

References

Allman Dan. (1999) M is for Mutual, A is for Acts: Male Sex Work and AIDS in Canada. Toronto: University of Toronto, HIV Social, Behavioural and Epidemiological Studies Unit

Bimbi David S. (2007) Male Prostitution: Pathology, Paradigms and Progress in Research. Journal of Homosexuality. 53(1–2):7–35.

Budd, J., Bell, B., & Campbell, R. (2019). Understanding and responding to the sexual health needs of men who sell sex: A review of the literature. Sexually Transmitted Infections, 95(7), 482-487.

Fogg, A. (2014). <Gender differences amongst sex workers online | by Andrew Fogg | Medium>

Sanders, T. (2018). Sex work, gender and the politics of inequality. International Journal of Gender, Science and Technology, 10(2), 209-229.

World Health Organization. (2019). <HIV and Sex Workers>

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Even an atheist is affected by religion(s) and a woman that goes from porn sex worker to Islam punctuates this fact. Ironically, this is more common than most would believe, and there is no shortage of Muslim sex workers. In truth, Christian, Jewish or Muslim, faith in God is very much thriving in the sex industry. Such beliefs tend to be expressed very individualistically and often secretly. In secret because the last thing anyone employing a sex worker wants to think about is God. – Pious whores are also poor whores.

Marilou, or Aisha as she now calls herself, is self described as a classy prostitute, who occasionally becomes a porn slut. In front of the camera, she’s done close to everything and confesses to enjoying group sex, with the caveat that she prefers a multiple male gang-bang to an all lesbian orgy. She assures that the engaging in the latter is purely for the money because she “adores masculinity” and “double penetration feels just too good.” Women can chose to wear the Muslim veil, but when they go from sex worker to Islam their mentalities tend to remain that of an adult industry veteran.

Always good with saving money and never suffered with any form of addiction, she started in the adult industry almost 30 years ago when she was 19. She has done acceptably well for herself, estimating that she’s probably had sex with several thousand people. In her journey from sex worker to Islam, Aisha wrestled with guilt her first few years in the jizz biz and wanted to have a normal job, but that never seemed to work out. Eventually she just gave up trying and distanced herself from mainstream society.

Couldn’t even keep a decent boyfriend

It’s a rare man that accepts that his partner has sex with other men, and even rarer one that can handle being with a woman who’s exchanges sex for money. Often sex workers try to hide what they do for a living, and still more, find relationships easier when they expect them to be temporary. Within the porn industry, some performers find long term love among others in the biz, but seldom are such couplings without other difficulties. So, it’s no wonder that a woman can start looking towards God, and can go from sex worker to Islam, despite the strict and misogynistic reputation that it has in Western society. A belief in Yahweh/God/Allah is a tremendous source of comfort for the loneliness and emotional isolation that the sex industry can create. It’s a far better choice than drugs or alcohol, especially for anyone with the proverbial heart of gold.

People within the sex industry seldom claim to be role models and have a habit of being very honest with themselves about who and what they are. The path from sex worker to Islam is less a question of trying to redeem their sins of sexual deviance and instead is a way to validate that they are worth more than the price tag on their genitalia. But perhaps the most interesting is that because of these economically challenged times, we are witnessing the paradox of pious Muslim women selling sex and career sex workers becoming pious – True belief in the Divine seems to be a great equalizer.

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It seems like the save-a-whore gang can’t resist asking sex workers if they’re victims of sex trafficking or how bad their criminal record is. Amazingly, there are many of us that were never victims of sex trafficking and we don’t have criminal records. Unfortunately, most of the time, no matter what you say to the virtue signalling brigade, there’s nothing that will convince them that you’re not covering up for someone or lying. A certain mega church has proven that with pamphlets stuck in my mailbox and a weekly prayer meetup (now) in their parking lot. Such groups don’t want to accept anything that differs from the popular narrative, more so especially when that reality differs greatly from the one that puts large sums of money in their pockets. – Sadly, there is no shortage of schemes to make a dollar on the backs of sex workers.

There are many paths that lead to the sex industry. Addictions, sexual abuse and yes, even sex trafficking but those are by no means inclusive of everyone. My path is directly attributable to a college debt and equity hiring practices. On what can only be described as a fortunate set of circumstances, I became a male stripper, first in handful of specialty events catering only to women and then later in gay strip bars because there was more work and the money was better. Interestingly, the majority of my co-workers were both heterosexuals and fathers trying to support their child/ren. My experiences show that the hardest substance consumed by most of the dancers was marijuana. In those days, the only addiction I saw was among the actual homosexuals, but it was for steroids.

People with substance addiction problems, abuse issues and financial desperation exist in every industry. Human trafficking only becomes sex trafficking because of the sexual element. However, agricultural workers are trafficked and construction workers are also trafficked. An example is how human trafficking syndicates in Dubai lure Filipinos with training programs and then ship them to jobs in Iraq when their tourist visas expire. No one however, seems to talk too much about them; because “saving-a-whore” and specifically targeting sex trafficking is far more salacious in the public’s mind. As a consequence it earns virtue signalling groups more money, while pushing its advocates higher up the political ladder.

Sex work is work.

Porn workers aren’t all that different from professional athletes. Often what happens on camera entails a lot of physical effort. Also, many of us put a huge investment in our bodies by working out and taking supplements. The point is the majority of sex workers are not victims of sex trafficking and they don’t need to be saved. What’s needed is the decriminalization of sex work, because it double victimizes those who turn to this industry because they have no other options which satisfy their particular circumstance. There is an independence that sex work affords us, a self direction of how we spend our time and energy. It pays well, and accommodates those with extreme personalities or time-consuming responsibilities. For all these reasons, this decriminalization must come with continued independence. To legalize it, then require of us some certification and registration or that we work within the confines of some government sanctioned institution, just removes the very freedoms that make the job worthwhile. We’d all be much happier if the government and NGOs just disappeared; their resources could be better used elsewhere, and maybe just maybe they might prevent some from the situation that causes this work to become an option in the first place.

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