A porn industry veteran, Hamilton Steele, says that there’s a virginity gap between men and women. He attributes this to societal rewards for female promiscuity. To quote, “No one is compensating a woman for remaining chaste.” In fact, it’s very much the opposite. Even a very plain looking woman can earn significant money, if she’s willing to sell access to her vagina. As testament to this fact, the Internet has seen an unprecedented uptick in platforms who facilitate helping ladies monetize their self-produced pornography. So it should be no surprise that, these social porn media sites are also fueled, in no small part, by a surge in virginal and sexually inept male users.

For older male virgins, porn has become their sex life.

A pornographer has a different world perspective compared to the average person. As porn has become a dominate force in modern society, women are catching up to men in its consumption. While the growing market of female viewers should be reason to celebrate from a pornographer’s perspective, porn addiction effects women differently and long-term that may mean a complete change in the market. Because unlike their male counterparts who substitute porn for sex to the detriment of interpersonal relationships. In females, this hypersexualization tends to lead to sexual promiscuity and extreme liberal sexual attitudes when it comes to relationships.

Among addicts the virginity gap is even more pronounced, because the female porn addicts are rarely virgins, while too much porn for men means that they have trouble connecting with women. Female porn addiction appears to come in two flavors ;

(1) Hypersexuality which often proceeds a sex addiction
(2) Insecurities and/or frigidity while still having an addiction to watching porn.

A pornographer obviously sees a lot of women who want to pursue a career in the adult industry. Just a decade ago, money was the dominate reason for wanting to be a pornstar. Today, almost as many females sex addicts, view being an adult performer as a means to indulge their cravings and secondarily still manage to keep a roof over their heads. During a quick interview, one 20 year old girl happily said that she views a porn career as a way to get rodeo fucked daily, without having to worry about becoming homeless. When asked about how long she has been looking at porn and at what age she lost her virginity, she responded that probably been looking at adult videos since she was 8. She had sex for the first time on her 13th birthday, unbeknownst to her 30 year old partner, who she led to believe that she was 19.

Females with insecurities, depression and/or who are frigid, also often find their way into the sex industry. But that is nothing new in the porno world. Porn video producers and performers are most often very complimentary towards female talent, stoking egos is part of the game. So the insecure find themselves the center of attention and of course with make-up, cameras, and being called models, they feel attractive. Whereas the appeal to purely frigid females is that sexual acts are staged and sometimes almost mechanical. They’re not expected to enjoy the sex, just to make it look good. Furthermore, the relationship with their sexual partners are over when a producer says “It’s a wrap, you can go home” . It’s the large increase of this kind of woman entering the business that is unusual, and once again for many of them they started having sex at a very young age.

The virginity gap between men and women from porn’s perspective.

The Internet instills a false belief that males are the winners in the current situation. Every man believes he can quickly create his fan page and he’ll be a success because hoards of females will pay to see him naked and masturbating. The paradox is that most women have almost no interest in solo male pornography and they gravitate towards the multi-performer and lesbian videos. They want to see a woman enjoying herself. It’s gay men predominantly, who want to see a man alone. And even this demographic can be fickle, because homosexual males will also watch heterosexual porn, when the male talent is well endowed, attractive or has some other arousing feature.

More evidence for the male vs female virginity gap is demonstrated by those men who are hoping to become pornstars. There will never be a shortage of guys that want to be in the sex industry. Some find their way into a pornographer’s office and many them are both extremely well endowed and physically attractive. But those qualities, although preferable, are no guarantee to a porn career, because more often than not, size is NOT enough to get the job done. Unfortunately, for the past 5 years, many of these hopeful males are still virgins, having never had sex in their personal lives, they believe that the hours they have devoted to watching the finished product makes them an expert. These hopeful swordsmen, rarely have the stamina or control to make a porn, not to mention a complete lack of finesse with the female talent.

No porn producer can (or will) take a chance on a guy that hasn’t had some kind of active sex life, prior to his interest in doing porn. Viagra can’t fix broken… It can only make what works even better. A 30 year old virgin male has usually watched thousands of hours of pornography and at best they have erection and attention deficit problems. Any pornographer that doesn’t have access to a large pool of talent most often will favor taking a chance on men that are at least over 40. Money is on the line and there’s so much competition that profit margins are low. So when looking for straight male talent, it’s often necessary to be the porn industry equivalent to an FBI profiler.

The unifying factor between the sexes is early exposure to porn.

The pornographic industry has always been on the cutting edge of both technology and societal trends. It’s also resilient to an arguable fault as even the most theocratic and totalitarian governments have been unable to eliminate demand for it; on the contrary attempts to do so only increase its desirability. So the industry can be thought of as the proverbial canary in the coal mine, when it comes to alerting us to societal changes or problems. Only, when the bird dies, instead of alerting everyone to flee the danger zone, pornographers will attempt to make money selling images of dead canaries. What many porno veterans are predicting is an eminent normalization of sex with children. But the shape that normalization takes will depend greatly on society’s relationship with the sex industry. Will children become exploited in the mine, or will it be boarded up, and the old ways of marrying pubescent girls to older established men, be rediscovered? Or, do we still have hope to build a better and a more appealing future?

Hamilton and Ghost discuss the Virginity Gap in their podcast

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In an era of political correctness and anti-hatred, age discrimination is both the highly profitable and the dumbest openly perpetuated prejudice . It’s absolutely moronic to discriminate against someone that’s older than us, because everyone one of us is aging and sooner or later, we’ll eventually be part of that rejected generation. Segregation based on age elevates the unrealistic optimism and innocence of youth, while negating the experience and wisdom that comes with time. Governments use divide and conquer politics to keep the youth from learning from those that are older, while corporations use ageism to sell their products and services.

The way age discrimination is used by the porn industry is both good and bad. One argument can be made that the business demonstrates that someone over 60 can still be very physically attractive and very sexual. However, the age represented is NOT always the age of the performer; pornographers are creating a fantasy, and rarely worry about truth in their story-lines. The other side of the debate is that teen and barely legal porn often encourages attraction to the prepubescent look. But since we are all over 18, it is also coincidentally the only legal release for such obsessions. Therefore, whatever beneficial aspects pornography might have, are always offset by its negative opposite and there’s always at least one negative.

We’re in the midst of a societal revolution or, depending on your point of view, a cultural war. Wokeism is openly violent and oppressive, defending its desire to destroy thousands of years of hard learned social wisdom. From the moment our mothers’ drop us off at daycare, our age divisions commence. They follow us through school, and as we reach adulthood, social groups and government programs abound which continue this separation. It’s no wonder that age discrimination has become ingrained into society, we have so little interaction across the generations, that we fail to relate to one another. As the focus continues to shift from family and individual success to group identity, the governments’ self-serving policies exacerbate the social problems that it claims to be addressing. Only the unintelligent or someone purposely choosing to not see the manipulation by the mass media and politicians would have the gall to say that they weren’t always aware of the situation, even before the arrival of the woke conflict.

Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water

They protest racism, they protest sexism, they protest for gay rights and they protest for body autonomy. Young plus sized females got the cover of Cosmopolitan in February 2021. However, if you want to see a female athlete in her 60s similarly celebrated, you’ll have to turn to Senior Marketed magazines. Age discrimination affects all races and sexes; only the most wealthy are able to escape its societal isolation. Even when the government does seem to make recompense to the older population, when it comes to things like the housing problem (created in part by the ever growing government who contributes to general inflation with poor fiscal practices, while subjecting home-owners to skyrocketing property taxes to cover their own bureaucratic paychecks); retirees can find themselves sequestered in communities purposely designed to accommodate their age group. I am not talking about nursing homes, I am speaking of the HUD regulated properties which prevent grandparents from raising their own grandchildren because where they are allowed to live, children are not welcome. When a government sanctions programs by age they are practicing ageism and they are further isolating and making vulnerable the older population.

Society has come to think of the elderly as losing their cognitive function (a documented consequence of isolation), having poor physical health, and being past their ability to make a substantial contribution to the workforce. But when the elderly are given purpose, have always taken responsibility for their physical health and have nurturing relationships with their family and communities, these problems are rarely evident; an 80 year old can have the same vitality as a 30 year old. Just as we expect less in physical and mental health of individuals as they age; we similarly expect less maturity and independence from minors than we did even a generation or two ago. Unfortunately, people will live up to those inadequate expectations. Too many people have been led to believe that we should expect less from ourselves as we age, that we should slow down and strive less, and believing this fallacy, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. The tremendous consequences of age discrimination, are felt in throughout a society which has culturally embraced them, and the subsequent list of hypocrisies is exhaustively long and poorly documented, despite being well known.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result. With that in mind, it’s also true that history repeats itself. Therefore, we live in a mad world and nothing is going to get better until we stop destroying millennia old human knowledge and learn from it. This will never happen as long as we allow the media, the entertainment industry and government to create a culture that praises the inexperience of youth, fears aging and shuns everyone over a certain age. In a moral society, we see each other as individuals and not by categories. Group identity politics is utterly the most bigoted evolution of society. Ultimately, the only things that should be scrutinized or weighted as important are someone’s knowledge, their skills and accomplishments. So if a 60 year old can pass ALL the required tests to join the military, that a healthy 20 year old must… They should be allowed to sign up and age discrimination be dammed!

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Even an atheist is affected by religion(s) and a woman that goes from porn sex worker to Islam punctuates this fact. Ironically, this is more common than most would believe, and there is no shortage of Muslim sex workers. In truth, Christian, Jewish or Muslim, faith in God is very much thriving in the sex industry. Such beliefs tend to be expressed very individualistically and often secretly. In secret because the last thing anyone employing a sex worker wants to think about is God. – Pious whores are also poor whores.

Marilou, or Aisha as she now calls herself, is self described as a classy prostitute, who occasionally becomes a porn slut. In front of the camera, she’s done close to everything and confesses to enjoying group sex, with the caveat that she prefers a multiple male gang-bang to an all lesbian orgy. She assures that the engaging in the latter is purely for the money because she “adores masculinity” and “double penetration feels just too good.” Women can chose to wear the Muslim veil, but when they go from sex worker to Islam their mentalities tend to remain that of an adult industry veteran.

Always good with saving money and never suffered with any form of addiction, she started in the adult industry almost 30 years ago when she was 19. She has done acceptably well for herself, estimating that she’s probably had sex with several thousand people. In her journey from sex worker to Islam, Aisha wrestled with guilt her first few years in the jizz biz and wanted to have a normal job, but that never seemed to work out. Eventually she just gave up trying and distanced herself from mainstream society.

Couldn’t even keep a decent boyfriend

It’s a rare man that accepts that his partner has sex with other men, and even rarer one that can handle being with a woman who’s exchanges sex for money. Often sex workers try to hide what they do for a living, and still more, find relationships easier when they expect them to be temporary. Within the porn industry, some performers find long term love among others in the biz, but seldom are such couplings without other difficulties. So, it’s no wonder that a woman can start looking towards God, and can go from sex worker to Islam, despite the strict and misogynistic reputation that it has in Western society. A belief in Yahweh/God/Allah is a tremendous source of comfort for the loneliness and emotional isolation that the sex industry can create. It’s a far better choice than drugs or alcohol, especially for anyone with the proverbial heart of gold.

People within the sex industry seldom claim to be role models and have a habit of being very honest with themselves about who and what they are. The path from sex worker to Islam is less a question of trying to redeem their sins of sexual deviance and instead is a way to validate that they are worth more than the price tag on their genitalia. But perhaps the most interesting is that because of these economically challenged times, we are witnessing the paradox of pious Muslim women selling sex and career sex workers becoming pious – True belief in the Divine seems to be a great equalizer.

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Mia is a very sexy Lebanese immigrant, who loves being the center of attention but Mia Khalifa regrets having done porn for three months from November of 2014 to January 2015. She got hooked up with the two biggest porn companies, Pornhub (Mindgeek) and Bangbros (WGCZ Holding) almost immediately. These Internet porn gurus’ ability to distribute and market worldwide combined with a bad decision to wear a hijab while doing a two guys on one girl sex scene made her a target of Muslim jihadists (reportedly ISIS). Now Mia is NOT Muslim, her only connection to Islam is that her birth country has a Muslim majority. But the prolific promotion of this scene in particular made Mia Khalifa a standout among the hundreds of girls that get involved with porn each year.

For most girls who dip there toes into porn for a mere 3 months, nobody really notices. But Mia Khalifa’s agreement to wear a hijab made her perhaps the most exploitable porn chick that ever was. She rose in a mere two months from unknown to the most searched for girl in porn. This was of course mostly due to death threats and the mainstream publicity that ensued. With death threats, it’s no wonder Mia Khalifa regrets having done porn.

Porn isn’t for everyone, and it puts a great strain on interpersonal relationships. Clearly this is one reason why Mia Khalifa regrets having done porn. Apparently Mia’s parents have disowned her and according to information available, she and her husband (who joined her in her first on camera sex) divorced in 2016. Mia did do some camming for a while, but working for the BangBros, those recordings have since been released as porn films, keeping the producers profiting from Mia. Most porn stars, if they cam after quitting the biz, they retain control over those shows, no recording, self distribution, it’s what Patreon fans pay the most for. In Mia’s case she had a baptism by fire, learning all the pitfalls of porn in such a short time.

Staying relevant is a full time job

BangBros retained miakhalifa.com, after she canceled their contract, but Mia made her notoriety work for her. Mia Khalifa regrets having done porn, but she has profited from it. She set up an OnlyFans account and staying active on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Twitch, the 5’2” busty beauty kept herself relevant. Having someone threaten to kill you is a great way to earn the media’s ear. Having someone declare you dead, is a great way to bring people out of the woodwork to see if it’s true. Letting everyone know that you are still alive, keeps people’s interest peaked, old clients get reminded to interact with you or visit your sites, the media circulates your name and image, bringing you to the attention of even more people. And with 4.2 million twitter followers, I don’t think that the media will lose sight of Mia for very long, because they want a piece of that.

Mia Khalifa has been asked several times in interviews, if she knew what would happen, would she still do porn. Her answer, because Mia Khalifa regrets having done porn, is always a resounding NO. So I think that Mia would be happy to be known for something other than porn and she has learned the hard way that notoriety is a double edged sword. Given that and a job as a sports newscaster, I just can’t think of Mia Khalifa as a porn star, she should be known for what she does best, being a social media influencer.

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Her eyes barely visible, she could have been a “poster-child” for a pious Muslim but taking off her clothes, she exited her world and entered mine, becoming one of the few pious Muslim women in porn. Within a few minutes, she was naked and sucking my cock. She’s in her early 30s and I took her measurements for my records, 40-23-36 and natural C cup breasts. In Islam it’s recommended to shave off the pubes, but this video project required some fuzz, so my co-star only trimmed her bush short and shaved back from her meaty lips. During our 1st set of stills, she had already started to get wet and there was nice white cream visible when she pulled her pussy open. She was understandably nervous and because there was no need for vulgar talking in this video, I remained professional, polite and friendly.

We went through the 3 positions, missionary, cowgirl and reverse cowgirl. Her natural feminine lubrication was very visible in most of our scene. So if she was feeling guilty about what she was doing it, she didn’t let it show. Her enthusiasm was less sexual and more trying to impress the new boss by doing a good job. In my career I’ve worked with women that were absolutely gorgeous but were equally a dead fuck. I’ve also filmed very plain girls that gave me such great scenes, I was left wondering if I had captured sex or an exorcism. The images we were capturing was nothing extreme, just a good and very strokable porno sex. For a moment I caught myself wondering that if I made a line about pious Muslim women in porn would they all be this pleasurable to work with.

I came on her face, and after pausing for stills, she took a shower while I counted out her pay, in cash. When she left the shower the adhan (أَذَان) sounded on her phone and I asked her to join me in the bedroom for a few moments. My business partner questioned me if I had any guilt about using pious Muslim women in porn. But I don’t. The Muslim community had failed her and I was offering her a solution, albeit a bad one but a solution nevertheless. Desperate times call for desperate action and this was all I had to offer. Despite any regrets she might be feeling, she was happy for the work.

Sam Shaft, a pornographer, once said, “Inside every great woman is an even greater whore.” He’s right, because part of being female is knowing that even in the worst situations she has something of value that she can trade for money, food, etc. So Muslim women in porn might not seem like that big of a deal, especially when you consider nations like France where there is no shortage of very secular French born Muslims. Outside of Islamic nations, women who embrace wearing the niqab or burka, normally do so for piety reasons, they’re rare and even more so in the United States.

People take many paths that lead to a career in porn. I’ve seen my share of drug addicts, those sexually abused as a children, swingers and even single mothers wanting a flexible job. However, it doesn’t appear that pious Muslim women in porn are in any of those categories, instead they all simply need the money. The Islamic community tends to take care of its own and in my way, I’m doing exactly that. It’s a very bad comment on current state of affairs that a woman should have to put aside her religious convictions, just to pay her bills.

I’ve worked in Europe with many secular Muslim women in porn. Prior to 2019, I could only count on 2 fingers how many came in my office wearing a full face covering. In both of those cases, the women were widowed refugees and I speculate that they had already exchanged sex for something of value. Escorting tends to be discreet and the risks are over-hyped by Hollywood, but it’s mostly late nights and you frequently have to deal with assholes, drunks and men who need to be coddled. In many ways, making porn can be a safer and easier alternative, plus there’s also deniability if discovered. Since the start of Covid, I’ve filmed my 5th niqab /burka wearing Muslim women and none of whom are widows or refugees, and all of them are in the United States.

What the hell is going on?

Prior to platforms and webcams, the average rates per scene for women in porn were:

• $400 to $600 for girl-girl
• $800 to $1,000 for boy-girl
• $1,000 to $1,200 for anal
• $1,200 to $1,500 for double penetration.

Obviously, some people paid more while others paid less and some female talent (or their agents) asked for even more. But all things considered, equal, those were the rates just over 10 years ago.

I knew a lot of low level porn girls that would do 2 scenes a day and earned between $1000 to $3000+. Today, the overwhelming vast majority of women producing their own content for the Internet and/or doing webcams are not earning that much in a month. No doubt, there are some women making serious money on the Internet but they’re the exception and I’m willing to bet that many of those have contact / relationship with the site’s owners/management. I get the feeling that most Muslim women in porn tried to make money on the Internet before considering real porn.

Feminism is lying when it claims that it represents all women and a desire for a more equitable society. It’s abundantly obvious that they’re quick to embrace and take credit for the success of any woman who becomes a lawyer, doctor or some other prestigious profession. But it’s a serious, yet subtle, marketing mind game when it comes to any woman who decides not to invest 6 years in college getting a master’s degree majoring in one of the sciences or business. Their mantra is that they support all women, which included traditional and conservatives ones. But the reality is that feminists maintain their distance from them. And, in the case of sex workers, they’re barely acknowledged save to paint her as a victim or, should the situation demand it, claim it’s her right to chose. Therefore being both traditional and a sex worker means that pious Muslim women in porn are screwed over twice.

Pornographers and other sex workers who have been in the industry for several years eventually figure out that government, big tech and none of the civil rights organizations are our friends. In fact, I’ll wager that they’re all self-serving assholes, who have found a way to make money from us without having to pay. The value of any and all women has subsequently decreased and the proof can easily be measured in the sex industry. It’s measurable by what type of woman are now trading sex for money and how much they’re getting paid for it. So the presence of pious Muslim women in porn means that we’re probably on the verge of some sort of collapse because other options aren’t available. And when they’re in front of my camera, it means other sex industry opportunities are equally failing to put food on her table.

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Some women get very excited about entering the porn industry, and meeting them the first time is delightful because their enthusiasm is contagious. For women making porn can be the ultimate sexual liberation. Plus, for the exhibitionist, it’s a serious sexual rush knowing that what begins with getting fucked in front of a film crew and ends with strangers jerking off to your videos. While I know a great deal about women, particularly when it comes to my profession, I’m obviously not an expert on ghosts. Still, from tales I have heard, I always thought that a ghost story was about some poor soul whose tragic death or unfulfilling life, kept them here. Therefore I couldn’t conceive a porn ghost story, it just doesn’t make any sense.

A porn ghost story is fucked up

It was early June 2018, my business partner and I had been contacted by a 40 year old woman who wanted to be in a porn. As is customary for first meetings in Paris, at least in the entertainment industry, we met her in a cafe. Exterieur Quai is on the right side of the Gare de l’Est, which was a very convenient location to meet. The woman looked great, she had the perfect attitude for a porn slut and we had an enjoyable conversation with her. Better still, she didn’t have lofty ideas about making money, she was more excited about the experience, so she was willing to work cheap. Of course, in a porn ghost story, you wouldn’t expect money to be an issue, but at the time she was very much alive. So having a hot looking, enthusiastic woman in front of me, her rates were my biggest concern.

I had stopped in the middle of an editing job to rush out the door, to be on time for our meeting. I grabbed my camera bag without checking its contents and was disappointed when I went to take some shots of her for our talent files, I had forgotten the batteries on their charger. I pulled out my phone and got some really lousy pics, but with professional photo equipment, I had never bought my phones for photographic performance. I actually took that as a life lesson and in the upcoming weeks started looking for an upgrade, just to have a back-up. I used my old phone as a trade in, forgetting to empty the images, as I always took my pictures with a real camera. We’ve discussed these events a few times and both of us have come to conclusion that perhaps, in some ways, a ghost story starts before the person is even dead. When these type of stories start, it’s always about the hero(s) taking the wrong turn, forgetting to bring holy water or something similar. In our porn ghost story, our lack of an image from that first meeting, makes everyone skeptic.

It had been awhile since a simple boy-girl scene was all that our shooting day demanded; but I truly liked the woman and I honestly wanted to fuck her. So, we agreed to film her first scene 5 weeks later and told her what to bring and wear to the set. After a couple of more espressos, some playful flirting and laughs, we said our good-byes and parted ways. Now this is where this becomes our porn ghost story because our future porn starlet ends up dying before she makes it to our set.

The day of the shoot

The woman shows up to set on time and ready for action, and we are oblivious to anything being amiss. I overheard her say to the makeup girl, how excited she was to be finally doing this, after years of only fantasizing about it. I was already starting to slide into my mental meat puppet mode and just focused on the imagining what her pussy would feel like on my cock, so I didn’t respond to her comment. But later I thought, could that have been her unfinished business? Could this have been that important to her to cause a ghost story?

She signed the required paperwork and then my partner began photographing the stills. Everything in this ghost story progressed like a normal porn shoot. We fucked in 4 positions and after a little more than 2 hours from when she walked through the door, we wrapped everything up with me cumming on her face. As my partner paid the makeup girl, our starlet went to the bathroom and that was the last we saw of her. There was only 1 entrance into the set and the bathroom was directly opposite it. Had she left the shower room, she would have had to pass the three of us. There was absolutely no way she could have sneaked past us, as the toilet had no windows or other way out.

We searched the entire studio and tried calling her phone. At the time we kept telling ourselves that the paperwork was signed and we had the footage, so from a legal perspective we were in the clear. However, to really make this contract legally binding, we needed to pay the woman for her work. As things stood, the only person paid was the makeup girl. The idea that I just had sex with the dead and that this was a ghost story were the furthermost things from all our minds.

Moving forward a couple of months, we’ve still heard absolutely NOTHING from the woman. My partner and I were discussing what to do with the footage and we finally agreed that we would release it. We had done everything legally right but just for my ease of mind, I wrote her name on an envelope and put her money in it. The two of us then grabbed the cameras, the footage and sat down at the computers to do some editing. Surprise, there was absolutely NOTHING recorded save for a few minutes where the equipment was tested prior to the dead woman’s arrival on set. We were convinced that we had somehow been had and that she not only managed to sneak away but also deleted the footage. All we had to prove that she was there was a signed release, because even the ID photos were gone. It still hadn’t occurred to us, that this was a ghost story.

Contrary to popular opinions, the sexual pervert community isn’t very large. As pornographers, we tend to associate with swingers (echangistes in France), voyeurs, Dominatrices, etc. At one point, we get told by couple that wanted us to film a gang-bang for them, that they had gotten our phone number from our porn ghost story woman. She had passed on our contact information about a week after she met us, but about 2 weeks later, she was killed in a car accident. In my mind, I still hadn’t entertained the idea that I had sex with a phantom. Obviously this couple had her confused with someone else, but they had a handful of photos of her on a phone taken at a swinger’s party in Cap d’Adge and yup, it was her.

Because we knew the woman’s real name and because I’m a curious individual, I went looking for more information. So I found her death notice and located her grave. True enough, she died in a car accident shortly after she met my partner and I in the cafe. Like myself, everyone is free to come to their own conclusions and admittedly, I remain skeptical about the entire ordeal. Only for lack of any other evidence, the only way that I can explain the events is that this was my very own ghost story.

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Most people don’t like the idea of paying for sex, and some people downright hate the idea so much they turn that hatred towards the very people who get paid to get them off. As a sex worker, I’ve been on the receiving end of the hate, A bad month full of assholes can really fuck with your head. What gets me, and other sex workers I imagine, past the difficult times is the money. As I like to say, you can kiss my ass, but it’s going to cost you 20 bucks. I go to the gym every day; a neglected body isn’t worth very much to anyone, I need to look good and be fit because I’m a whore. If I haven’t done it yet, it’s because my price hasn’t been met. Yet it’s surprising some times what I find myself doing for a few bills in my pocket. Like french kissing a chain-smoking, steak tartare eating sex-starved septuagenarian with the most disgusting foul breath you can imagine.

On the other hand everyone loves an easy to lay slut, but most people have no respect for them. Only my clients, coworkers and closest friends know what I do for a living. Since most people don’t tend to think of men as whores, I’m often told what someone thinks of fast and free screws. Also, men don’t enjoy a monopoly on this disrespectful attitude, because I’ve met some lesbians that are just as bad as any man, sometimes worse in their degrading disrespect of a floozy.

There is no middle ground between these two attitudes, but at least when someone hates you, they respect you. Despising someone requires an emotional investment, and it’s difficult, if not impossible, to see your opponent as anything less than an equal. Another way to understand the situation is think of it as becoming someone’s obsession and living rent free in their mind. Believe me, they’ll remember your name.

I’ve never been a fan of the “save a whore” attitude. Without doubt, people like me are mentally wired differently than the average person. It wouldn’t be surprising if sex workers were more likely to commit suicide or die of a drug overdose. But I’ve also seen the opposite , and know that just as many of us are capable of doing impossible things Therefore, I’m often inclined to giving a hand up to a fuck anyone slut transforming them into a pay me whore. Admittedly my efforts have had mixed results, leaving me to wondering if whores are just somehow smarter.

Ghost, my business partner and cameraman has often said that friends are expensive, while clients put money in your pocket. The gist of this is that we need to be careful who we call a friend. Someone might be a swinger but regardless of how their relationship is, it’s one thing to fuck your spouse for free but it’s stupid to screw your neighbor just because you like them. Sluts, even when they decide to become sex workers are infamous for doing foolish things like this. Not only does it cost them money, but they also tend to find themselves surrounded by people that happily sing their praises because they’re getting laid. But all too often, these “friends” disappear when the party is over.

As a pornographer, I often get asked to introduce someone to a performer and my response is always the same, “it’ll cost you”. As a meat puppet, I’m not giving away free samples and most people that assume they can take liberties because we are friends end up making some excuse to call me in the future. A handful get perturbed, but to date, no one that I have ever met in a non-professional environment has ever paid me. The only people who pay have always known upfront that I’m sex worker. With others, it’s as if because they’ve come to know me in a non-business environment, learning that I’m a sex worker somehow entitles them to perks and I’m supposed help them fulfill their fantasy by being a nice guy.

So love me because of professionalism and honesty or hate me because I won’t be used, I don’t really care, because one thing is for sure, you will remember me.

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Some days you just have to laugh at the insanity of big businesses, big tech and the Internet. I’ve been releasing a podcast for the past couple of weeks and although I discuss the jizz biz, it’s actually very tame by most modern western definitions. When the podcast is uploaded to a mainstream, non-adult tube site, we make sure that the images we chose are not pornographic. Although modestly sexy, every woman in the pictures is fully clothed. The conversation in the podcasts can be a bit colorful; but they’re mostly about business and many Netflix videos have far more graphic dialog than what I’m creating.

One of the sites that the podcasts were uploaded to, bills itself as being a supporter of free speech. Obviously people can’t really go about saying anything, anywhere without expecting consequences. For instance, yelling fire in a crowded movie theater when there isn’t one is an asshole thing to do, someone can get seriously hurt in the panic. However, in the case of Internet platforms that depend on user generated content, I’m comfortably certain that they’ve found ways to pass the responsibility of policing uploads on to algorithms and on the backs of their subscribers. This means a thousand people could have had no problems watching or listening to your creation, but a small handful people either don’t like it or they just want to be jerks and democracy or justice be damned, there is a judgement against you. The result is censorship, demonetization and /or banning and it’s done automatically without human oversight.

Most of these platforms have an appeal process and to a certain extent it works. Unfortunately, more often than not, this is outsourced to poor nations who supply cheap labor. So the people reviewing your content interpret it’s acceptability with their own cultural biases. Take Muslims in India or Pakistan, whose religious conservatism dominates their lives; their beliefs run into conflict with western society. When they don’t believe that women should have a right to even a basic education, you can’t be expected to them to approve content filled with female empowerment. And I’m not comfortable having them review the merits or lack thereof of my work. Perhaps the appeal process was fair and perhaps it wasn’t, but the only certainty is that we have no way of knowing, no information is provided on who the reviewers are or how they arrive at their decisions. And that is just wrong…because you can’t correct a problem, if you can’t identify it, and you can’t defend against bias if you have no proof of it’s existence.

The Masses Are Asses

My real complaint isn’t with these biased reviewers, it’s with the consuming masses that accept and often encourage widespread and rampant censorship without debate. Some think as Descartes that our existence is a quintessential result of thought, or that thought is what gives life purpose. Although I’ve always joked that when compared to other species, humanity can be better defined by the inability of individuals to think for themselves. It’s a sad fact, but the majority of us want to be told what to think and what opinions we should hold. Henceforth proving that Alexander Hamilton was right when he said that the “Masses are asses.”

What truly separates us from the rest of the creatures on this planet is that we engage in politics. Which, is nothing more than large enough group of people allowing very small different group of people or even single individual, to determine what they believe. Censorship therefore, is nothing more than a filter against undesirable thoughts. So the site that proclaimed it was an island refuge for free expression, really only offers freedom of speech for those that share its opinions. Unfortunately, this means that regardless of how tame and vanilla, I can never produce any sort of content that they will find acceptable. The moment anyone finds out that I’m a pornstar and pornographer, I’ll be banned and forced back into the free speech ghetto.

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A well respected female producer/director once said to me, “There is something almost primal deep inside all of us that cries out, “Just Fuck the bitch.” As a performer, I found myself sitting there nodding in agreement, because I could think of several instances where that very thought had gone through my mind. I have actually experienced this both directly while doing a girl and vicariously by watching another performer, fuck some girl on set. It’s not that I’m mad at the girl or think badly of her, as the term bitch might suggest. Rather it is a primitive thing, like a bitch goes into heat. There she is ready, primed, looking to get laid; you just have to take her and pound her until she can’t take anymore.

When I have been there, with a raging hard-on, the girl will be on her knees in front of me with her ass in the air. Looking down I will see her glistening wetness, grabbing her by the hips, I watch her rotate up to me. At this point, I have one thought… to conquer. I will furiously thrust against her until she quivers and collapses beneath me in a most satisfied state of euphoria. The thing is watching a girl cum, her skin flush; her legs clench, and hearing her scream out, is actually very satisfying for me. It is a little different for me when I’m the voyeur. Yes, I still watch for the orgasm but the act is more drawn out.

Every whimper, every moan, increases my arousal. I don’t just put myself in the guy’s place, thinking about what each of his moves feels like. But from a voyeur’s position, I also have time to appreciate from a different perspective how each movement is being responded to. Things that I miss when I am personally caught up in the act of fucking, when my own physical stimulation overrides all other sensory input, the sights, the smells, the sounds.

Now this leads me to think about how does she feel as “the bitch” being fucked.? Does she feel compromised or degraded? I certainly hope not! I only fuck women who are willing participants, even I when working for others, I preferred older more experienced women, who knew what they wanted over the barely legal twats, that thought porn was an easy way to make a quick buck. I mean what can be more erotic than having a woman sit at your feet in an exhausted quivering mass of satisfied flesh.

Now if this truly is a physiological urge deeply seeded in all of us, then pornography is a viable release for this desire. We get off on porn because we mentally place ourselves within the scenario on the screen of the page. Hey, not everyone can or wants to actually live out their fantasies. Porn allows them to vicariously “fuck the bitch” in every conceivable way. Our sexual identities and comfort levels are deeply dependent on our upbringing and prior experiences. Porn not only offers ideas for sexual exploration, but also provides an aid to mentally go through something, establishing some familiarity before deciding if that something would be worth experiencing directly.

Lastly, I want to address the persons who feel that their partner’s interest in porn is an affront to their relationship. Think of this, he/she chose you, to be with you, to share with you, through the ups and downs. Pornography is just mental stimulation, a fantasy, no commitment, no life-changing emotional ties, no competition. So if he gets worked up over a bitch that is nothing like you, rest assured she is not your competition. Sit down beside him and get into the video with him, after all you to might enjoy the opportunity to “Just Fuck the Bitch”.

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For better or for worse, but hopefully entertaining, the Jizz Biz’s Meat Puppet finally got off his ass and published a podcast. Topics include, the need to get your paperwork in order, producing for collectors and the demise of the last porn theater in Paris France. I am joined by Ghost, my production assistant, for a little business talk and some laughs about our misadventures in dealing with the regular public.

As with everything, I maintained an old school approach to producing this podcast, but I have high hopes for it. The philosophy behind its format is to follow the KISS rule. Producing content need not be so complicated, and the easiest way to keep things simple is to keep them real. Hopefully others find my reality as entertaining as I do. So anyone that’s looking for stellar special effects, or big name celebrity guests would be better off looking for a different podcast. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a glimpse in to the life of a veteran pornographer then the Steele Hard show is going to be a treat for you.

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