Cuckold males and hot wives are in vogue, but there are female equivalents and Muslim women are natural cuck queens. In Islam, the most virile and desirable men are those with multiple wives. Not only do his Natural Cuck Queens let him pick and choose which partner/s occupy his marital bed, but they also share or divide duties among themselves for the collective betterment of this amalgamated family. This is usually by way of each woman’s skill set, with the better cooks taking over the kitchen and the educated working outside of the home. The children even benefit, because the most nurturing can be responsible for them, while a career-minded biological mother can work assured that her co-wife has the children’s best interests at heart. From birth they’ve been influenced by a religious doctrine that tells them it’s normal to share their husband with another woman. Polygyny (not polygamy) is the practice of having more than one wife and in Islam, Muslim men are allowed up to 4 wives.

But What Happens in the Bedroom?

Looking at the cuckold male, we find a husband who feels inadequate when it comes to satisfying his wife’s (real or perceived sexual needs). He may want to watch her with another man, or simply hear about it later, and he might even want his own sexual drives to be denied by a chastity cage. Women approach sex differently from men; whereas men give love to have their sexual desires gratified, women satisfy their partner’s sexual desires to get the love and relationship they desire. With Islamic females because they’re natural cuck queens, this can too can manifest in a variety of ways. It may be simply that an older woman with dwindling hormones lacks the desire for sex, but not the drive to please her husband, so she encourages his intimate time with younger co-wifes much like the male cuckold in the cock cage.

Since women are all about relationships, the co-wife relationship in Islam becomes just as important as the husband-wife dynamic, giving these natural cuck queens a natural mixture of voyeurism and bisexuality. Unlike Judaism and Christianity which appear to have no specific prohibition against homosexuality between females, Islam makes it very clear that it’s not acceptable. “Women that are sexually active with other women would meet Allah(swt) as adulterers.” – Ibn Abi Shayba The prohibition stems mostly from the non-procreative (therefore seen as unnatural) elimination of the male from the relationship, rather than a prohibition against female closeness. In reality, female bisexuality is a lot more common in Islamic polygynous relationships than their scholars know, with many Muslim women viewing the access to another woman as one of the benefits of the marriage.

Cuckold Culture Divide

Western culture appears to have gone the opposite direction, with the majority of today’s men being cuckolds. In these societies, there are very few government enforced controls on viewing pornography and it’s become readily available to anyone that wants to watch it. Porn has always been about viewing another dick fucking a woman. Most porn consumers don’t want to see the guy’s face, just his cock parting a female’s labia lips and sliding deep inside her vaginal opening. This vicarious relationship quickly moves from fantasizing about the girl getting fucked by one cock… to being fucked by multiple cocks. So it’s no surprise, men wanting to see their girlfriend/wife fucked by another male has become the number one fantasy in our society. In contrast, a natural cuck queen seldom entertains the idea that a she’ll be intimate with other men. Therefore cuck queens will always be a fringe fetish, never reaching the popularity of male cuckolds, in Occidental nations.

On the surface, it appears that polygyny favors male dominance. Indeed feminism makes such arguments against this system and the practice of raising girls to become natural cuck queens. But even a mediocre search delivers a multitude of results that feminism also disdains traditional male-female monogamous relationships. By their own arguments both monogamy and polygyny are masculine constructs which favor a patriarchal social order. Therefore, it’s perhaps safe to construe that relationships based on multiple cuckold husbands for each woman is feminine construct which favors a matriarchal social order. Which begs the question…Who’s REALLY in CONTROL in Western Culture?

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It’s becoming difficult to keep your kids away from pornographers because we live in a pornified world. There are many roads that lead to a my door, and they run the whole gambit from drug abuse to thrill seekers. However, these days, the most common porn slut maker is what I call ghost parents. Ghost parents are physically in their child’s life but they have little or no substantial interaction with their kids. The ghost parent might even work hard to provide for the physical needs of their children, but in doing so their emotional needs get neglected. On your child’s 18th birthday s/he is legally considered an adult and people like me are eager to teach them how to have sex on camera in exchange for money, the one thing that you have taught them has tangible value. Furthermore, there’s nothing a parent can do about it, because by then, it’s too late.

The parents might do an incredible job keeping food on the table, a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs. They might even go to every parent teacher meeting and be involved with the PTA. However, apart from these obvious responsibilities they’re otherwise just too busy or preoccupied with their own lives to interact with their children. These parents are emotionally drained by professional demands, putting all their energy into working towards a deadline or promotion. They find themselves short fused around the never-ending demands of child rearing and seek time to themselves or with friends to decompress and “be a better parent”. Leaving children to quietly play on their screens, be babysat or even just stay home alone if they are old enough. Absenteeism isn’t not a formula to keep your kids away from pornographers, in fact it drives many of them right into our loving arms.

Pornographers like being father figures.

Adult videos starring 18 year olds are undoubtedly popular among pedophiles and are completely legal. I’ve have had young porn talent introduce me to their siblings when they became legally able to consent. Girls literally celebrating their birthdays on set, thinking about all the goodies their new job will provide them with. I even remember being on set with 3 sisters aged between 22 and 18. The slutty sisters even shared scenes becoming a fucking family. There is a reason why, “who’s your Daddy?” is a porno line. During the shoot, I listened to the producer constantly praise the girls for how beautiful they were and how spectacular their work was. There were also big hugs and kisses whenever any of them wanted them. Sexually inappropriate misconduct is just not a thing on porn sets. Anyone who wants to keep their kids away from pornographers needs to start by becoming close to their children. And they need to do it, on their kids terms, while they are still young and looking for parental attention. Not after they have grown enough to have given up and are are ready to find someone else.

School Sucks ! The porn industry has already started to benefit from the school systems neglect to teach reading, writing and arithmetic in favor of studies in gender expression. So to keep your kids away from pornographers you need to either put an end to the bullshit going on their schools or pull them out and home-school them. As a producer, getting to know my talent for who they believe themselves to be has been both rewarding and very profitable. Unsurprisingly, I have had all kinds of sexuality expressionists enter my doors. The young biological female who swore she was a boy and wanted to only do solo work, ended up doing a mini gangbang and now she escorts. So I guess. like me, her new gender is whore. – Trust me, there are lots of pornographers eagerly anticipating what the mask generation will be willing to do for an easy dollar and with luck it won’t cost us much more than that.

Another way to keep your kids away from pornographers is to stop being a helicopter parent, this behavior is akin to a prison warden. You need to stop preventing your kids from doing things, fearing that they may be hurt, and start to do things WITH them that challenge them to grow. Get your fucking priorities in order, because I guarantee that most people don’t need to be spending their money on half the crap which they do. Most couples can afford to have one parent stay home instead of working, and either home school the children or at least be there when needed. Unfortunately the majority of people chose to send a message to their kids that having money to keep up with tech, entertainment and fashion, is more important than interpersonal relationships. In fact they teach them that they are showing their love by buying the newest Iphone, Netflix or Amazon Prime subscription or driving the coolest car. Single parents should make every effort to force the government to pay them to stay home. Let’s face it, the government spends trillions on useless crap, would taxes not be better spent helping raise decent human beings?

As always, what someone chooses to do is up to them. They’re your kids and not mine, I don’t want the responsibility. But once they are legally adults, all bets are off. Just don’t say that you weren’t warned, when you see your 18 year old daughter on the Internet screwing me.

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Some women get very excited about entering the porn industry, and meeting them the first time is delightful because their enthusiasm is contagious. For women making porn can be the ultimate sexual liberation. Plus, for the exhibitionist, it’s a serious sexual rush knowing that what begins with getting fucked in front of a film crew and ends with strangers jerking off to your videos. While I know a great deal about women, particularly when it comes to my profession, I’m obviously not an expert on ghosts. Still, from tales I have heard, I always thought that a ghost story was about some poor soul whose tragic death or unfulfilling life, kept them here. Therefore I couldn’t conceive a porn ghost story, it just doesn’t make any sense.

A porn ghost story is fucked up

It was early June 2018, my business partner and I had been contacted by a 40 year old woman who wanted to be in a porn. As is customary for first meetings in Paris, at least in the entertainment industry, we met her in a cafe. Exterieur Quai is on the right side of the Gare de l’Est, which was a very convenient location to meet. The woman looked great, she had the perfect attitude for a porn slut and we had an enjoyable conversation with her. Better still, she didn’t have lofty ideas about making money, she was more excited about the experience, so she was willing to work cheap. Of course, in a porn ghost story, you wouldn’t expect money to be an issue, but at the time she was very much alive. So having a hot looking, enthusiastic woman in front of me, her rates were my biggest concern.

I had stopped in the middle of an editing job to rush out the door, to be on time for our meeting. I grabbed my camera bag without checking its contents and was disappointed when I went to take some shots of her for our talent files, I had forgotten the batteries on their charger. I pulled out my phone and got some really lousy pics, but with professional photo equipment, I had never bought my phones for photographic performance. I actually took that as a life lesson and in the upcoming weeks started looking for an upgrade, just to have a back-up. I used my old phone as a trade in, forgetting to empty the images, as I always took my pictures with a real camera. We’ve discussed these events a few times and both of us have come to conclusion that perhaps, in some ways, a ghost story starts before the person is even dead. When these type of stories start, it’s always about the hero(s) taking the wrong turn, forgetting to bring holy water or something similar. In our porn ghost story, our lack of an image from that first meeting, makes everyone skeptic.

It had been awhile since a simple boy-girl scene was all that our shooting day demanded; but I truly liked the woman and I honestly wanted to fuck her. So, we agreed to film her first scene 5 weeks later and told her what to bring and wear to the set. After a couple of more espressos, some playful flirting and laughs, we said our good-byes and parted ways. Now this is where this becomes our porn ghost story because our future porn starlet ends up dying before she makes it to our set.

The day of the shoot

The woman shows up to set on time and ready for action, and we are oblivious to anything being amiss. I overheard her say to the makeup girl, how excited she was to be finally doing this, after years of only fantasizing about it. I was already starting to slide into my mental meat puppet mode and just focused on the imagining what her pussy would feel like on my cock, so I didn’t respond to her comment. But later I thought, could that have been her unfinished business? Could this have been that important to her to cause a ghost story?

She signed the required paperwork and then my partner began photographing the stills. Everything in this ghost story progressed like a normal porn shoot. We fucked in 4 positions and after a little more than 2 hours from when she walked through the door, we wrapped everything up with me cumming on her face. As my partner paid the makeup girl, our starlet went to the bathroom and that was the last we saw of her. There was only 1 entrance into the set and the bathroom was directly opposite it. Had she left the shower room, she would have had to pass the three of us. There was absolutely no way she could have sneaked past us, as the toilet had no windows or other way out.

We searched the entire studio and tried calling her phone. At the time we kept telling ourselves that the paperwork was signed and we had the footage, so from a legal perspective we were in the clear. However, to really make this contract legally binding, we needed to pay the woman for her work. As things stood, the only person paid was the makeup girl. The idea that I just had sex with the dead and that this was a ghost story were the furthermost things from all our minds.

Moving forward a couple of months, we’ve still heard absolutely NOTHING from the woman. My partner and I were discussing what to do with the footage and we finally agreed that we would release it. We had done everything legally right but just for my ease of mind, I wrote her name on an envelope and put her money in it. The two of us then grabbed the cameras, the footage and sat down at the computers to do some editing. Surprise, there was absolutely NOTHING recorded save for a few minutes where the equipment was tested prior to the dead woman’s arrival on set. We were convinced that we had somehow been had and that she not only managed to sneak away but also deleted the footage. All we had to prove that she was there was a signed release, because even the ID photos were gone. It still hadn’t occurred to us, that this was a ghost story.

Contrary to popular opinions, the sexual pervert community isn’t very large. As pornographers, we tend to associate with swingers (echangistes in France), voyeurs, Dominatrices, etc. At one point, we get told by couple that wanted us to film a gang-bang for them, that they had gotten our phone number from our porn ghost story woman. She had passed on our contact information about a week after she met us, but about 2 weeks later, she was killed in a car accident. In my mind, I still hadn’t entertained the idea that I had sex with a phantom. Obviously this couple had her confused with someone else, but they had a handful of photos of her on a phone taken at a swinger’s party in Cap d’Adge and yup, it was her.

Because we knew the woman’s real name and because I’m a curious individual, I went looking for more information. So I found her death notice and located her grave. True enough, she died in a car accident shortly after she met my partner and I in the cafe. Like myself, everyone is free to come to their own conclusions and admittedly, I remain skeptical about the entire ordeal. Only for lack of any other evidence, the only way that I can explain the events is that this was my very own ghost story.

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The fallout that I can imagine cascades in all directions. Take for instance a situation where someone anally rapes a female with broom handle and their defense in court is that it wasn’t rape because in their culture, rape can only be done by a penis entering a vagina. Imagine the trauma of having to relive such a violent act to testify, only to have the ordeal negated because the charges won’t stick under this subjective definition. Inversely a security guard could be criminally charged with rape for conducting a job related pat-down. We’ve already seen lives destroyed by unfounded accusation without consequence to the accuser. How much worse could it be if a bias judge was allowed to interpret the meaning as she saw fit. The destruction that a culturally fluid concept of rape can cause is, in my eyes, unfathomable and it scares the hell out of me.

Male, 26 years old repeatedly raped in prison.

Carl (not his real name) served an 18 month prison term in New York State where he was repeatedly raped by multiple men. We met 3 months ago when he contacted me, looking to work in the adult industry. Carl was soft spoken, and he wanted work, not trouble. For all the reasons people get into sex work, the biggest is that it’s really all they can handle. The commitment of regular jobs is too much for them. While sex work can be fast, easy, and you get paid right away. The sad truth is that traumatic rape experiences often create emotionally fractured people who go from being someone’s sex toy, to objectifying themselves to make ends meet.

Carl explained how he had been hanging out with a bad crowd when his carefree lifestyle caught up with him and he went to jail at 20. He was nonchalant in his tone, but as his eyes averted mine, I knew he was struggling to suppress his emotions. I watched his left foot bounce incessantly as he continued,

“When they brought me into the prison it didn’t take long for a couple of guys to give me that look like I was a new fuck doll. I remember walking past one guy and him saying to me that he’ll protect me. No one told me, but that’s how it works in jail, some guy rapes you and then he’s like, your daddy or husband. You ain’t got anymore manhood and your ass belongs to him. I was young and skinny, so from behind my ass looked like a woman to men that haven’t seen a female in years.”

He stops to have a cigarette, letting his foot hit the floor and stop it’s infernal bounce. He interjects that I don’t have to worry, nicotine is his only addiction now, he gave up drugs and hanging with that crowd.

As he gathered strength from the hot inhalation, he went on to tell me how his cellmate claimed him that first night. “When we were locked in my cellmate came up to me with his cock hanging out asking for a blowjob. I told him that I wasn’t gay or bisexual and he just smiled and grabbed my hair and forced me down. He was a big powerful guy that could have killed me, so when he threatened me I complied. Once he got hard he pulled my pants down and fucked me in the ass and he rode me hard and long. In the morning he told his friends and they all took turns raping me. I was raped almost every day I was in jail. I regularly had the shit beaten out of me and would walk around with bruises, cracked ribs and my asshole ripped open from impromptu gang bangs. The administration always made it clear that I should shut up about being raped and I did because I didn’t want it to get worse.”

Female, 32 years old raped several times by school teacher and husband

Lisa (not her real name) was 14 when she was raped several times by a school teacher and her husband. Like myself, she’s a veteran of the adult industry having worked in it more than 15 years. People that remain in this industry develop a thick skin and over time it only gets thicker validating the expression that we’re “tough as nails.” Although rape often is what causes many of us to become sex workers it’s the rape experience that causes someone’s mind will fracture. How those fractures express themselves can be drastically different among each individual.

Lisa matter-of-factly retold the story like she was reading through a porn premise. She knew how to remove herself from the reality, the psychological schism completely in her control. Her life took a turn just after starting high school. Having difficulty in math, she jumped at the chance to work one on one with her teacher, Mrs. Gibson. “ Friday after school, she drove me to her home and she helped me study for about an hour. After that she offered me some wine and like any kid I accepted.” Lisa isn’t sure how she ended up being eaten out by her teacher that day, but she does remember the confusion she felt after she orgasmed. “It totally fucked with my head because I had always believed that rape was something men did to women. I had no clue what to call that was happening to me. She also made me cum so I figured that I somehow responsible for what was happening.”

She continued to explain how her teacher started necking with her in the car before dropping her off. And like on any date with an aggressor, she ended it by telling her to be ready the next day to continue her tutoring. “I was a total naive idiot and I was outside sitting on the porch with my books waiting for her. She fingered me while we drove back to her home and when I got there her husband was there with another glass of wine for me. They both laughed when he took my virginity and I got blood on their bed.”

Lisa stops telling me her rape story to ask how much she’s getting paid for the boy-girl-girl scene I am shooting the next day, and I tell her. She complains that it’s on the low side and says how much she hates eating out girls. But then she quickly reminds herself that I’ve hired her several times, it’s easy work with me that doesn’t end up on the Internet.

From her perspective, for whatever reason, the sexual exploitation, wasn’t the worst of Lisa’s problems which she feels really began when, about a month later, she told someone what was happening. After that her world collapsed, nobody believed her, not even her parents. She started drinking, doing drugs and she left home. “ I was 15 and living on the streets and hooking behind a music shop. Even a couple of those Christian ministries guys came around to have me suck them off. They never screwed me because that was wrong but swallowing their loads was ok. I was around 18 when an old street walker from Boston helped me get off the streets and get clean. She ran an escort agency and the work was safer. I don’t know what happened to that teacher and I haven’t seen my parents since either.”

Helen, 45 years old wants to be raped

Helen (not real name), fantasizes about rape. It is a common fantasy, but women rarely want to be brutally raped, most rather enjoy the idea of being physically taken by an unknown aggressor. In Helen’s case though she wanted it as brutal as any mainstream movie, violent, physically damaging, sudden and anonymous. We were on the phone, when I realized she wasn’t looking for a re-enactment of Veronica Hart’s Taken. I made notes and demanded to meet face-to-face in a public place. I loath surprises and a woman willing to pay to be brutalized and raped has the extreme potential for a bad surprise.

A couple of days later, Helen was perturbed that I showed up with a witness (another girl) and a small camera. Rape fantasies, when they involve physical injury as well as sex, don’t always stop at the act. I mean she could very well be masturbating to the idea of also putting a rapist in jail. Considering the level of reality that she was asking for the only thing that would keep my ass from being arrested was fully documenting her request before proceeding.

Helen is a successful professional, she comes across the quiet conservative type, the ones we always whisper about being the ones to watch out for. She wanted to be taken off the streets, driven to a secluded area and beaten into submission by a masked man who would rape her. She liked the idea of a knife or a gun being used too. We finally agreed on a home invasion to occur by the next quarter. I also made her pay 50% upfront by personal check, made out to me personally as one more level of documentation. Much to her displeasure, I insisted that she have a safe word. If she said mercy at any point during her attack, it would be stopped, and the contract would be considered fulfilled Our meeting ended with her being filmed signing a legal document that explained that the rape was consensual while absolving me of all legal and/or financial responsibilities. After the signing and witnessing of the contract she would be unexpectedly raped within the next 3 months.

Just over a month later, she was caught in her kitchen by a masked intruder. Her rapist wore a discreet body cam and filmed the ordeal. (Again legal safety) She received a knife slash across her shoulder, a black eye and a split lip but never once did she say “mercy.” As I watched the footage, it was her eyes that struck me the hardest. The swift movements of her pupils divulged genuine fear, while the flush of the skin and the way her eyes would momentarily roll back after her pupils dilated betrayed her elation, as she struggled against her assailant. Helen was penetrated both vaginally and anally and she had multiple orgasms, during the following 3 hours, she got everything she had been looking for.

The outstanding sum on the contract was payed the next night. Helen looked like hell. I asked how on earth was she explaining her injuries, and without hesitation she told me that she got into a fight with another woman over politics. The pride she took in her injuries was confirmed by the fact that she tipped me, and then asked about setting up another rape session.

In conclusion

I look at the world these days, and I see a sick society, one that is becoming increasingly sicker. People who know me, often say I am like Han Solo, but these days I feel more like Darth Vadar as the darkest fantasies become realities. But don’t get me wrong, I still think that rape (in it’s traditional definition) is wrong and should be dealt with the harshest of penalties. Consent must be 100% or it’s not consent.

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In the 1980s porn was behind the success of video cassettes and in the late 1990s porn created the demand for high speed Internet access. Around the same time Paypal and eBay were helping facilitate the sales of used panties and private personalized porn videos, which came to an end when they became a household name. (And eBanned was born). Plus if there’s any truth to the rumors that I’ve heard, at least one porn tube site is helping the government destabilize a Muslim nation and launder money for their arms dealers.

Only Fans claims it’s only banning porn and not nudity

The story goes that they’re struggling to find outside investors and that they’re complying with the requests of their banking and payout partners. Which I’ll say is just pure bullshit because the wealthy have a never ending multitude of ways of hiding their investments in degenerate scumbags companies and people. I should know because my business model largely depends on wealthy companies and people investing in my projects while making sure there’s no direct connection between them and myself.

Only Fans is therefore banning porn because it’s good business to get rid of us. Just like it always has been, the porn industry helped create a huge interest and demand in product and and now we’re being thrown under the bus. What Only Fans wants to attract isn’t money but mainstream performers and artists. Henceforth, the reason nudity will still be allowed is because everyone will want to see some Hollywood actress’ cunt, like Jennifer Lawrence. I can also see Only Fans supporting, some freakoid artist’s newest photo essay titled, naked 8 year old boy tries on mommy’s bra. Or even, some angry blue hair social justice warrior recreating the birth of her last abortion.

In the wake of this new policy, there will be the usual hoards of sex industry workers thrown under the bus. All the young women trying to pay off their student loans, single mothers that found a way to safely work from home, young couples that were saving for a home, etc. I’ve said this many times and I’ll say it again, there is nothing to be gained by dealing with mainstream, unless you count getting royally screwed over.

But if you must jump on the next bandwagon, just make sure you keep your luggage close at hand so you can jump off again before getting pushed out and under the wheels. I for one, arrange my own transportation, because I learned long time ago, every time someone else handles my stuff, I come out with less than I counted on.

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Progress, when it comes to the porn industry, is really nothing more than change. And since the sex acts have essentially remained the same for all of human history, change comes in the form of how we record and distribute our products. For years now, the mantra has been “Adapt or Die“, almost always telling someone to figure out how to embrace new technologies. This short sighted approach may work for geeks that spend the majority of their lives on the Internet in front of some sort of screen. But it doesn’t make sense to continuously upgrade your camera equipment when the investment doesn’t increase profits, but rather just keeps you making the same product at an increased cost for an over saturated market.

It’s the smart businessman that realizes his objective is to earn a profit on his investment. Therefore, adapt or die has nothing to do with embracing new tech and everything to do with exploiting his own imagination. It is all about finding someone willing to pay for something you can sell. It doesn’t matter what you sell, only that the consumer sees it as valuable and is willing to pay for it. Getting into the mind of the consumer to learn what he wants and then making him believe that you’re the only one in the world that can satisfy him, is the greatest economic game of adapt or die in existence. Greed is what makes you go after the product and greed to have something someone else has, is what makes the consumer want it. It’s what made the cave-woman seduce the caveman to get the woolly mammoth blanket. Hell, it’s what made the caveman take down the woolly mammoth, to have a hot body sharing his bed.

A successful businessman can be likened to a conniving whore, whose only loyalty is to the bottom line, not any particular client. Find someone willing to pay more for what you’re selling and the price goes up. Greed is natural and in any business adaptation it’s a good thing, despite that most people are ashamed to admit it. Because without greed, we would never feel the need to adapt, and probably, if the expression has any validity, die out.

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Today’s conversation includes information about private versus exclusive porn videos and an accidental pregnancy that happens on our set during an actual impregnation video. Also, we include our loved segment where we make fun out of stupid emails that we get. So there’s lots to keep listeners entertained for 30 minutes.

This was a doozy of a podcast to get done. Neither Ghost nor myself were in the frame of mind to sit down and talk about our adventures but we knew that it might another 2 weeks before we got another chance to create a new podcast. So for better or for worse here it is.

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Most people don’t like the idea of paying for sex, and some people downright hate the idea so much they turn that hatred towards the very people who get paid to get them off. As a sex worker, I’ve been on the receiving end of the hate, A bad month full of assholes can really fuck with your head. What gets me, and other sex workers I imagine, past the difficult times is the money. As I like to say, you can kiss my ass, but it’s going to cost you 20 bucks. I go to the gym every day; a neglected body isn’t worth very much to anyone, I need to look good and be fit because I’m a whore. If I haven’t done it yet, it’s because my price hasn’t been met. Yet it’s surprising some times what I find myself doing for a few bills in my pocket. Like french kissing a chain-smoking, steak tartare eating sex-starved septuagenarian with the most disgusting foul breath you can imagine.

On the other hand everyone loves an easy to lay slut, but most people have no respect for them. Only my clients, coworkers and closest friends know what I do for a living. Since most people don’t tend to think of men as whores, I’m often told what someone thinks of fast and free screws. Also, men don’t enjoy a monopoly on this disrespectful attitude, because I’ve met some lesbians that are just as bad as any man, sometimes worse in their degrading disrespect of a floozy.

There is no middle ground between these two attitudes, but at least when someone hates you, they respect you. Despising someone requires an emotional investment, and it’s difficult, if not impossible, to see your opponent as anything less than an equal. Another way to understand the situation is think of it as becoming someone’s obsession and living rent free in their mind. Believe me, they’ll remember your name.

I’ve never been a fan of the “save a whore” attitude. Without doubt, people like me are mentally wired differently than the average person. It wouldn’t be surprising if sex workers were more likely to commit suicide or die of a drug overdose. But I’ve also seen the opposite , and know that just as many of us are capable of doing impossible things Therefore, I’m often inclined to giving a hand up to a fuck anyone slut transforming them into a pay me whore. Admittedly my efforts have had mixed results, leaving me to wondering if whores are just somehow smarter.

Ghost, my business partner and cameraman has often said that friends are expensive, while clients put money in your pocket. The gist of this is that we need to be careful who we call a friend. Someone might be a swinger but regardless of how their relationship is, it’s one thing to fuck your spouse for free but it’s stupid to screw your neighbor just because you like them. Sluts, even when they decide to become sex workers are infamous for doing foolish things like this. Not only does it cost them money, but they also tend to find themselves surrounded by people that happily sing their praises because they’re getting laid. But all too often, these “friends” disappear when the party is over.

As a pornographer, I often get asked to introduce someone to a performer and my response is always the same, “it’ll cost you”. As a meat puppet, I’m not giving away free samples and most people that assume they can take liberties because we are friends end up making some excuse to call me in the future. A handful get perturbed, but to date, no one that I have ever met in a non-professional environment has ever paid me. The only people who pay have always known upfront that I’m sex worker. With others, it’s as if because they’ve come to know me in a non-business environment, learning that I’m a sex worker somehow entitles them to perks and I’m supposed help them fulfill their fantasy by being a nice guy.

So love me because of professionalism and honesty or hate me because I won’t be used, I don’t really care, because one thing is for sure, you will remember me.

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It used to be that I cringed every time I heard the word whore. I have always seen whores as takers and I prided myself as being a giver. Even when I dated, I preferred to pay, not because I was looking for sex, but because I enjoy giving and sharing with others. I have helped friends out lending every skill imaginable, and among friends I neither charged for the help nor differentiated one service from another. Each service is only subjectively valuable, and the only truly tangible thing I am trading is my time and energy.

Where I was raised, most people have a limited disposable income, this is how things are done. Favors are traded like a bartering system and takers are shunned. But in America today things are very different. So many people are looking for a handout without giving in return. It’s all about having the right image and having the right label on a product is what counts. People still want their prestige and luxury, but these days those that can’t afford to pay for it are also unwilling to do something to earn it. It’s no surprise that when you give something away and it has no value, so making someone work for it turns its value into something tangible, and that value is significantly increased.

When I started making porn, rates were pretty standard and there were many production houses. I didn’t feel like a whore, because what I was giving would last more than the time it took to shoot and could ultimately bring many people pleasure. In my quest to make this world a little happier, I haven’t jeopardized my own happiness. But I value relationships and people more than money, thus I have never had a problem sharing myself with people I genuinely liked, or cutting a deal for “friends”, to help with their production costs. Trouble is the most personable people are capable of loving the almighty dollar more than, all too often, even themselves.

Business is business

To say that the business can be cut throat is an understatement, everyone is looking for profit, but very few care to actually work for it What differentiates quality from quantity is foresight and planning. Looking at the video industry, we often see that you get what you pay for in regards to the final product, as production costs including makeup, good sets and lighting can turn a performance from something akin to a webcam show to something that has a dollar value. The producers who find ways to avoid the Internet con artists, freeloaders and mouchers are seeing the larger picture. The cheats want it here and now. Those who pay honestly for something rarely feel cheated and those who cheat to get something rarely see its value. It is a little thing called cognitive dissidence. Even if something isn’t all that great, if enough is invested into it, the mind protects the ego by convincing it that it has gotten something of value, and vice versa, given the size of the egos in the adult industry, it is no wonder that this prevails.

This phenomenon is most prevalent in the classification of talent. With a multitude of performers to choose from, those that adhere to their rates are selected predominantly over those who lower rates based on need. So rare is a break on these premium rates, that a hundred off on a multiple scene booking is toted as a deal. More often than not, a manager intercedes on the performer’s behalf to negotiate, at least until the powers that be have decided that they have invested too much into the talent, for the performer to be anything but first rate. Ultimately what makes talent popular is their marketability, what makes them sell is their promotion, what promotes them is someone who has invested heavily to have them as part of a project; all in the quest to be getting their money’s worth.

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A well respected female producer/director once said to me, “There is something almost primal deep inside all of us that cries out, “Just Fuck the bitch.” As a performer, I found myself sitting there nodding in agreement, because I could think of several instances where that very thought had gone through my mind. I have actually experienced this both directly while doing a girl and vicariously by watching another performer, fuck some girl on set. It’s not that I’m mad at the girl or think badly of her, as the term bitch might suggest. Rather it is a primitive thing, like a bitch goes into heat. There she is ready, primed, looking to get laid; you just have to take her and pound her until she can’t take anymore.

When I have been there, with a raging hard-on, the girl will be on her knees in front of me with her ass in the air. Looking down I will see her glistening wetness, grabbing her by the hips, I watch her rotate up to me. At this point, I have one thought… to conquer. I will furiously thrust against her until she quivers and collapses beneath me in a most satisfied state of euphoria. The thing is watching a girl cum, her skin flush; her legs clench, and hearing her scream out, is actually very satisfying for me. It is a little different for me when I’m the voyeur. Yes, I still watch for the orgasm but the act is more drawn out.

Every whimper, every moan, increases my arousal. I don’t just put myself in the guy’s place, thinking about what each of his moves feels like. But from a voyeur’s position, I also have time to appreciate from a different perspective how each movement is being responded to. Things that I miss when I am personally caught up in the act of fucking, when my own physical stimulation overrides all other sensory input, the sights, the smells, the sounds.

Now this leads me to think about how does she feel as “the bitch” being fucked.? Does she feel compromised or degraded? I certainly hope not! I only fuck women who are willing participants, even I when working for others, I preferred older more experienced women, who knew what they wanted over the barely legal twats, that thought porn was an easy way to make a quick buck. I mean what can be more erotic than having a woman sit at your feet in an exhausted quivering mass of satisfied flesh.

Now if this truly is a physiological urge deeply seeded in all of us, then pornography is a viable release for this desire. We get off on porn because we mentally place ourselves within the scenario on the screen of the page. Hey, not everyone can or wants to actually live out their fantasies. Porn allows them to vicariously “fuck the bitch” in every conceivable way. Our sexual identities and comfort levels are deeply dependent on our upbringing and prior experiences. Porn not only offers ideas for sexual exploration, but also provides an aid to mentally go through something, establishing some familiarity before deciding if that something would be worth experiencing directly.

Lastly, I want to address the persons who feel that their partner’s interest in porn is an affront to their relationship. Think of this, he/she chose you, to be with you, to share with you, through the ups and downs. Pornography is just mental stimulation, a fantasy, no commitment, no life-changing emotional ties, no competition. So if he gets worked up over a bitch that is nothing like you, rest assured she is not your competition. Sit down beside him and get into the video with him, after all you to might enjoy the opportunity to “Just Fuck the Bitch”.

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